The Dark-Eyed Mistress of Sweet, Sweet Pain (jenni_the_odd) wrote,
The Dark-Eyed Mistress of Sweet, Sweet Pain

Testy Goodness Part III

Results of your Self-Esteem Test
Self-Esteem Index
Your score = 34

What does your score mean?
According to this test, you have relatively low self-esteem. You need to realize that everybody has self-doubts, and everybody fails at some point - it's just part of the human experience. Trouble begins when you take failure so seriously that you anticipate the worst from the future. It becomes a damaging self-fulfilling prophecy: you expect something to happen and thus act in a way that increases the chance of it really happening. The expectation of failure may influence how much effort you are willing to invest and how long you stick it out when faced with challenges. You may very well have the ability and the desire to succeed, but expecting failure can keep you from responding to difficulty with adaptive decision-making and action. Such behavior will increase the likelihood of failure, which in turn confirms what you expected in the first place! It's a vicious circle...but one you can get out of!

Consider doing some serious work on your self-esteem. You can do a lot by yourself with some self-help books. Many titles can be found on the net (search for self-efficacy, self-esteem, or self-help), or at the university or local library. I would recommend structured down-to-earth books that concentrate on learning techniques with explanations and examples. Audiocassettes can also be helpful, but don't expect some kind of subliminal message to do the job for you. If you feel overwhelmed and unsure you can do it on your own, don't hestitate to contact a professional. A good therapist can lead you in the right direction. You'll certainly see the long-term benefits - increased confidence, better relationships, less anxiety and an overall improved sense of wellbeing. You're worth it.

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