The Dark-Eyed Mistress of Sweet, Sweet Pain (jenni_the_odd) wrote,
The Dark-Eyed Mistress of Sweet, Sweet Pain
jenni_the_odd

Brought on by a conversation with a friend, and Scrubs.

Imagine, for a moment...

You're in a new relationship. You like this person, they like you, life is good.
But you know there are things about you that will make them think you are off your fucking rocker (regardless of whether you actually are or not). Henceforth, these aspects of your personality will be referred to as 'the crazy'. This can vary from admitting that you scream like a little girl and climb the nearest chair when you encounter a spider, 'fessing up about the fact that those scars on your arm/leg/wherever really didn't come from a very angry cat, revealing that you still sleep with a stuffed owl, or mentioning that you have a mental illness which you are managing with various medications (or not, as the case may be). Stuff that, if the relationship lasts more than a week or two and they are not brainless, they will probably figure out on their own; and if it goes long-term, they will definitely need to know about and deal with.

So the question becomes:

When do you bring out the crazy?

All up front, completely open. No stealth psychosis here.
38(57.6%)
Maybe drop some hints here and there.
24(36.4%)
I wait until they like me too much to leave, and then I unload it all at once. Their expressions are usually priceless.
4(6.1%)
Sometime after our third wedding anniversary.
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Never. I will carry my crazy with me TO MY GRAVE.
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When do you want your partner to reveal their crazy?

Get it over with and tell me right from the start.
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All at once kind of scares me, maybe ease me into it a little.
24(36.4%)
Once they're secure enough in the relationship that they know I won't leave them over some neuroses.
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Eventually, I guess.
1(1.5%)
I'M NOT LISTENING THERE IS NO CRAZY LA LA LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU.
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Ever had a revelation of the crazy go particularly wrong? Do tell.

Does a compulsive need to include tickyboxes count as part of 'the crazy'?

Yes.
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No.
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Ticky.
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Ticky-ticky boom.
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What was the tickyquestion?
7(10.6%)


Me? I like to put the crazy out there from the start. "Look, here is what is wrong with my brainmeats, here is how I am likely to annoy you, and here are the things about me that others have told me are just plain wrong." Sure, it'll scare some people off, but hey, I consider that a time-saver. I also take this time to point out things that I consider positive aspects of being with me. Granted, it is usually a much shorter list, but it's something.
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